How to Win Friends and Influence People
Cut along the dashed lines and pass the cards around the table.
Who is the person in your life who always remembers your name, your coffee order, or the little things you mention? How does it feel when they do?
Where were you curled up while reading this, and was there a moment you caught yourself smiling or thinking of a specific friend?
Carnegie puts a lot of weight on being genuinely interested in others. Can you share a time someone's simple curiosity about you made a hard day feel lighter?
Sincere appreciation comes up again and again in the book. Who is someone you have been meaning to thank, and what would you want them to know?
The book gently suggests we criticize less and understand more. Did that stir any tender memories of someone who chose patience with you when you least expected it?
Listening well is treated almost like a gift. What does it feel like, in your body and heart, to be really listened to, and who does that for you?
Did any part of the book make you feel a little vulnerable or recognize a habit you would like to soften? How did it feel to sit with that, and what kind thing might you try instead?
Some readers find the book's advice sweet and heartfelt, while others worry it can feel like technique. When you imagine using these ideas with the people you love most, what keeps them feeling warm and sincere for you?