The Let Them Theory
Cut along the dashed lines and pass the cards around the table.
When you first heard the phrase "let them," did your shoulders drop a little, or did some part of you push back? What did it feel like in your body?
Where were you, and what were you sipping, when you read the part of this book that stuck with you most?
Is there a relationship in your life (a parent, a sibling, a coworker, an old friend) where saying "let them" felt like setting down a heavy bag you'd been carrying for years?
The book pairs letting others be with choosing your own next step. Which half feels more comforting to you right now, and which feels harder to practice?
Many of us show love by fixing, planning, and worrying. Did the book help you see any of your caretaking habits in a softer or kinder light?
Think of a time someone let you make your own choice, even one they disagreed with. How did it feel to be trusted like that?
Is there a hurt or disappointment you've been holding onto that this book made you want to gently let go of? What would you do with the energy you'd get back?
Letting people be can feel freeing, but it can also feel lonely or a bit like giving up. Where do you draw the line between caring about someone and accepting them as they are, and did the book move that line for you at all?