The Steps
Sylvester Stallone looks back at a scrappy, uncertain childhood and the long climb toward his first break, in a voice that is funnier and more tender than you expect. It is a short, warm read about wanting something badly before anyone believes you can have it.
We are reading Sylvester Stallone's memoir about a rocky childhood and a very long climb, so dinner is a big pot of sauce and a pile of doughnuts. Wear something soft and bring one story about a time you almost quit.
Best for: A club that likes memoirs with heart, trades personal stories freely, and would rather feel something than dissect it
Discussion
Warm-up
- 1.Before you opened this, what was your Stallone? The movie, the poster, the impression you walked in with. Tell us in one sentence.
- 2.What is the first thing in these pages that made you smile or wince in recognition, before you were even settled into the book?
Digging in
- 1.The book spends real time on being the kid who does not fit the room. Was there a passage about that feeling where you quietly thought, oh, me too?
- 2.Money is tight here in very specific, ordinary ways. Did any of those small details land somewhere personal for you, and do you want to say what it reminded you of?
- 3.Who in your own life played the part of the person who believed you a little early, before the evidence was in? What did they actually do or say?
- 4.He keeps showing up for something that is not going well yet. Where is your version of that, the thing you kept doing without proof it would pay off?
Going deep
- 1.Memoir lets someone decide how gently to tell on their younger self. Where did you feel him being kind to that kid, and where did it seem harder for him to be? Did his softness toward himself change how you feel about your own earlier years?
- 2.Taking the whole book as one long walk, which step do you think cost him the most to describe, and does reading someone else's climb make your own look different, maybe more forgivable?
On the table & to sip
To eat
To sip
Run of show
Host tips
- Say up front that nobody has to have finished the book. This is a short memoir and a cozy night, and a half-read guest with opinions is still a good guest.
- Cook the sauce and meatballs the day before. You want to be on the couch when people arrive, not at the stove.
- The personal questions here invite real disclosure. Answer first yourself with something slightly vulnerable, then stop talking, and the room will follow.
Playlist
Warm doo-wop, Philly soul, and a few hopeful horns, playing low enough that people keep talking over it
- 01 Gonna Fly Now - Bill Conti
- 02 In the Still of the Night - The Five Satins
- 03 Stand By Me - Ben E. King
- 04 Me and Mrs. Jones - Billy Paul
- 05 Lean on Me - Bill Withers
- 06 Ain't No Mountain High Enough - Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell
- 07 The Way We Were - Barbra Streisand
- 08 Take It to the Limit - Eagles
Trivia
- 1.In what city was Sylvester Stallone born? (New York City.)
- 2.Which city's rowdier neighborhoods feature in his youth and later became the backdrop of his most famous film? (Philadelphia.)
- 3.What 1976 film did Stallone both write and star in, becoming an overnight success story? (Rocky.)
- 4.Stallone received Academy Award nominations for Rocky in two categories. Which ones? (Best Actor and Best Original Screenplay.)
- 5.What is Stallone's widely known nickname, also the title of a 1980s franchise character of his? (Sly, and the character Rambo gave him his other signature franchise.)
- 6.Stallone's distinctive speech and the droop on one side of his face date from what event? (Complications at his birth that caused partial facial paralysis.)
- 7.Before acting paid, Stallone worked a string of odd jobs in New York. Name one commonly cited. (Cleaning lion cages at the Central Park Zoo, also ushering at a movie theater.)
- 8.What genre is The Steps, and roughly how long is it? (A short memoir of his early life and career, a quick single-sitting read.)
Bookmarks
Print, cut, and tuck one at every seat, a small keepsake from the night.
“Keep climbing. The warm kitchen is at the top.”
“Every underdog started as somebody's quiet kid.”
“Second helpings, second chances, same table.”
Rate the book
We hope the company was good and the conversation even better. Until the next chapter.