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Book Club Night Kit
The War On Reality

The War On Reality

Frank Turek and Phoenix Hayes
Cozy night

A conversational apologetics-style book that argues truth is under siege in modern culture and invites readers to think clearly about what is real. It is short on jargon and long on provocations, which makes it unusually easy to talk about over a warm mug.

Big Questions, Soft Chairs

Come sit by the cider pot while we talk about what is actually true and why it matters. Bring your doubts, your disagreements, and an appetite for pot roast.

Reading level: Moderate

Best for: A club that likes big questions asked kindly, with room for people who see things differently

Discussion

Warm-up

  1. 1.Before we talk about the book at all: what is one small, ordinary thing you are certain is true, and how does that certainty feel to carry around?
  2. 2.Where were you reading this one (couch, car, kitchen table), and did the setting make it feel more like a conversation or more like an argument?

Digging in

  1. 1.The book keeps insisting reality is not up for a vote. Was there a moment where that idea felt like a relief to you rather than a challenge, and why?
  2. 2.Turek and Hayes write with a lot of confidence. Did that confidence feel like a steady hand on your shoulder, or did you find yourself wanting them to slow down and sit with you longer?
  3. 3.Was there a page where you felt seen, like the authors had described something you had quietly noticed about the world but never said out loud?
  4. 4.The book treats clear thinking as an act of care for other people. Who in your life models that for you, and what do they do that makes disagreement feel safe?

Going deep

  1. 1.Somewhere in this book you probably met an idea you did not want to be true. What did you do with that feeling, and has it softened or hardened by tonight?
  2. 2.By the time you closed the book, did it leave you feeling more protective of people who see the world differently, or more urgent about convincing them? Talk about which version of yourself you would rather bring to the table.

On the table & to sip

To eat

Sunday-supper pot roast sliders
Slow, unhurried, and honest food for a book about things that hold up over time. Make it in the morning, shred it at 6, and let people build their own.
Cast iron cornbread with honey butter
Plainspoken and warm, the culinary version of this book's tone. It also gives everyone something to do with their hands during the tense parts of the conversation.
Apple hand pies (or a bakery apple pie, no shame)
The apple is the oldest symbol in the West for a choice about knowing. Serving it warm turns that into a comfort instead of an accusation.

To sip

Slow cooker spiced cider with orange and clove (no alcohol)
Non-alcoholic, smells like the whole house is on your side, and it keeps people holding a warm mug while they say hard things gently.
Strong drip coffee with real cream, set out in a carafe (no alcohol)
This is a book you finish alert. A carafe means nobody has to interrupt the room to get a refill.
A simple bourbon and cider warmer
One measure of bourbon in the same spiced cider. Familiar, forgiving, and it loosens the conversation without turning it into a debate stage.

Run of show

7:00
Doors, mugs first
Cider is already going. Hand every arriving person a warm mug before they take off their coat. Nobody talks about the book yet.
7:20
Supper, low lights
Sliders and cornbread out buffet style. Keep the playlist audible but quiet. This is where the real warming up happens.
7:45
Warm-up circle
Both warm-up questions, one lap around the room. Set the ground rule now: we are here to understand each other, not to score points.
8:05
Theme questions
Work through the four theme questions. Let silences last longer than feels comfortable. The best answers in this book arrive slowly.
8:45
Pie and the deep two
Serve the hand pies right before the deep questions. Sugar and the second half of the conversation belong together.
9:20
Scorecards and soft landing
Fill out scorecards, read a few aloud, pick the next book. Let people linger. The porch conversation is often the best part.

Host tips

  • Say out loud at the start that people are allowed to disagree with the authors and with each other, and that nobody has to resolve anything tonight. With a book like this, permission is the whole ballgame.
  • Have one person you trust ready to answer first on each deep question. Going second is much easier than going first, and one brave answer unlocks the room.
  • Keep the food replenished but the pace slow. If the conversation gets tight, refill mugs. Physically warm hands genuinely lower the temperature of a hard discussion.

Playlist

Low, unhurried Americana and hymn-shaped folk: acoustic, room-sounding, the kind of music that leaves space for people to think mid-sentence.

  1. 01 Holocene - Bon Iver
  2. 02 I Will Wait - Mumford & Sons
  3. 03 Wayfaring Stranger - Jos Gonzlez
  4. 04 Hard Times - Gillian Welch
  5. 05 Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing - Sufjan Stevens
  6. 06 The Night We Met - Lord Huron
  7. 07 Take Me Home, Country Roads - Toots and the Maytals
  8. 08 Danny Boy - Johnny Cash

Trivia

  1. 1.Frank Turek is best known as the co-author of which widely read apologetics book, often shortened to a four-letter acronym? (I Don't Have Enough Faith to Be an Atheist (IDHEFTBA), co-written with Norman Geisler.)
  2. 2.What is the name of the ministry and podcast Frank Turek founded and hosts? (Cross Examined.)
  3. 3.Before his career in apologetics, Turek served in which branch of the United States military? (The U.S. Navy, where he was an aviator.)
  4. 4.What broad genre does The War On Reality belong to? (Christian apologetics and cultural commentary, nonfiction.)
  5. 5.Turek is known for a debate format in which he challenges audiences to define a term before arguing about it. What is the general name for that kind of move in logic? (Asking for a definition, a defense against equivocation and ambiguity.)
  6. 6.The phrase 'war on reality' implies a disagreement not about values but about what, exactly? (Facts, or what actually exists independent of what anyone believes about it.)
  7. 7.What is the classical term for the branch of philosophy concerned with what is real, a central concern of this book? (Metaphysics (specifically ontology, the study of being).)
  8. 8.Turek's public work centers heavily on speaking at what kind of venue, where his 'Cross Examined' events are frequently held? (University and college campuses.)

Bookmarks

Print, cut, and tuck one at every seat, a small keepsake from the night.

The War On Reality

“Pull up a chair. The truth can wait for your cider.”

The War On Reality
Frank Turek and Phoenix Hayes
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The War On Reality

“Some things stay true even when the house is quiet.”

The War On Reality
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The War On Reality

“Disagree with me gently, and pass the cornbread.”

The War On Reality
Frank Turek and Phoenix Hayes
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Rate the book

Warmth of tone☆☆☆☆☆
Made me think☆☆☆☆☆
Fairness to the other side☆☆☆☆☆
Would hand it to a friend☆☆☆☆☆
Comfort of the reading☆☆☆☆☆
One word for how this book left you: ______________________
The page I want to talk about again next time: ______________________
Something I still am not sure about: ______________________
That's a wrap
Thank you for coming

We hope the company was good and the conversation even better. Until the next chapter.