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Book Club Night Kit
Unreasonable Hospitality

Unreasonable Hospitality

Will Guidara
Cozy night

Will Guidara's warm, story-filled memoir of running Eleven Madison Park asks how you make people feel truly cared for. It's a good pick for a night that's all about looking after each other.

Come Hungry, Stay Cozy

Join us for warm drinks, comfort food, and stories about the little things that make people feel cared for, as we talk about Unreasonable Hospitality. Bring your appetite and your best 'I felt so welcome' story.

Reading level: Easy

Best for: A friendly club that likes feel-good nonfiction and trading personal stories over a good meal

Discussion

Warm-up

  1. 1.Think of a time someone made you feel truly welcome, at a restaurant, in a friend's kitchen, or anywhere at all. What did they do, and why do you still remember it?
  2. 2.Which small story or moment from the book made you smile, or made you want to text someone about it?

Digging in

  1. 1.Guidara says that how people feel matters as much as what they're served. When has the feeling of a gathering stayed with you longer than the food or the setting?
  2. 2.The book is full of little surprises made for one particular guest. Has anyone ever done something small that showed they'd really been paying attention to you? How did that feel?
  3. 3.Who in your life is an 'unreasonable' host, the kind of person who always goes a bit further to make others comfortable? What have you learned from them?
  4. 4.Guidara writes a lot about taking care of the people who take care of others. Where in your life do you feel looked after, and where could you use a bit more of that care?

Going deep

  1. 1.The book suggests that being generous in unexpected ways is worth the time and effort it takes. Did that comfort you, challenge you, or both? Is there a gesture you've been meaning to make for someone?
  2. 2.By the last chapters, did the book change how you want to show up for the people around you, at work, at home, or at a table like this one? What's one small thing you'd like to try this month?

On the table & to sip

To eat

Mini Hot Dog Bar with Fancy Toppings
A nod to the book's famous hot dog story, where a humble street snack became a moment of real delight. Set out soft buns, caramelized onions, and a few homemade relishes so guests can build their own.
Skillet Mac and Cheese with Toasted Breadcrumbs
Simple comfort food with a little extra care on top, which is the book's whole idea in one dish. Bake it ahead and keep it warm.
Warm Chocolate Chip Cookies Sent Home in Little Bags
Fine-dining hospitality lives in the finishing touches. Bake them right before guests arrive so the house smells amazing, then hand each person a small bag of cookies on the way out.

To sip

Spiced Apple Cider with Cinnamon Sticks (no alcohol)
A slow cooker of warm cider feels like a hug in a mug, and it quietly tells guests to stay a while.
Hot Toddy Bar
Whiskey, honey, lemon, and hot water, set out so guests can make their own the way they like it, a little bit of personal hospitality.
Mulled Red Wine
Warm and fragrant, it echoes the book's love of the dinner table and turns the room into a small bistro for the evening.

Run of show

7:00
Warm Welcome
Greet each guest at the door by name and put a warm mug of cider or a toddy in their hands within a minute of arriving.
7:15
Build-Your-Own Bites
Open the hot dog bar and mac and cheese. Let people settle in, eat, and catch up with no agenda.
7:45
Warm-Up Stories
Start with the 'time you felt truly welcome' question and go around the circle. Keep it light and let stories wander.
8:15
Cozy Conversation
Move through the theme and deep questions with refills in hand. Pass the question cards around so different people get to read them.
8:50
Trivia and Cookies
Bring out the warm cookies and play a relaxed round of trivia in teams. No one keeps score too seriously.
9:15
Scorecards and Send-Off
Fill in scorecards, share one small gesture each person plans to try, and hand out cookie bags and bookmarks at the door.

Host tips

  • Take a page from the book and plan one small personal surprise, like each guest's favorite snack at their seat or a handwritten note tucked in their cookie bag.
  • Keep the lights low, set out blankets, and have everything prepped before anyone arrives so you can relax and be with your guests.
  • Ask quieter guests gently and never put anyone on the spot. Passing is always okay on a cozy night.

Playlist

Mellow, warm, candlelit dinner-party music that sounds like a favorite neighborhood spot on a slow night

  1. 01 Come Away With Me - Norah Jones
  2. 02 Harvest Moon - Neil Young
  3. 03 La Vie en Rose - Louis Armstrong
  4. 04 Sunday Morning - The Velvet Underground
  5. 05 Lovely Day - Bill Withers
  6. 06 Better Together - Jack Johnson
  7. 07 The Way You Look Tonight - Frank Sinatra
  8. 08 Home - Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros

Trivia

  1. 1.Which New York City restaurant did Will Guidara co-own and run? (Eleven Madison Park)
  2. 2.Who was Guidara's chef and business partner at that restaurant? (Daniel Humm)
  3. 3.In what year was Eleven Madison Park named number one on the World's 50 Best Restaurants list? (2017)
  4. 4.Which well-known restaurateur did Guidara and Humm buy Eleven Madison Park from? (Danny Meyer)
  5. 5.How many Michelin stars did Eleven Madison Park earn? (Three)
  6. 6.What humble New York street food features in one of the book's best-loved stories? (A hot dog)
  7. 7.In what year was Unreasonable Hospitality published? (2022)
  8. 8.What genre is Unreasonable Hospitality? (Nonfiction, a business memoir about hospitality and leadership)

Bookmarks

Print, cut, and tuck one at every seat, a small keepsake from the night.

Unreasonable Hospitality

“Small kindnesses, served warm, are never forgotten.”

Unreasonable Hospitality
Will Guidara
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Unreasonable Hospitality

“Pull up a chair. You belong at this table.”

Unreasonable Hospitality
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Unreasonable Hospitality

“Pay attention, then go a little further.”

Unreasonable Hospitality
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Rate the book

Heartwarming Moments☆☆☆☆☆
Stories I'll Retell☆☆☆☆☆
Made Me Want to Host☆☆☆☆☆
Comfort Level☆☆☆☆☆
Inspired to Be Kinder☆☆☆☆☆
One word for how this book made me feel: ______________________
A small gesture I want to try for someone this month: ______________________
The person I'll lend this book to next: ______________________
That's a wrap
Thank you for coming

We hope the company was good and the conversation even better. Until the next chapter.