Bad Feminist
Cut along the dashed lines and pass the cards around the table.
Gay writes about loving things that are not good for her and not good, period. What is your comfort watch, comfort read, or comfort snack that you would happily defend to this room?
Which essay did you read in one sitting without meaning to, and where were you sitting when it happened?
The phrase 'bad feminist' is offered as relief rather than accusation. Did reading it loosen something for you, and in what part of your life?
Gay is tender about her younger self and the books that raised her. What did you read as a kid that you still feel protective of, even knowing its flaws?
Several essays move from a movie or a TV show straight into something personal. Did one of those turns catch you off guard and make you think about your own life?
This collection is openly fond of being a fan: of singers, of shows, of competitive games. What is something you love with no cool detachment at all?
Gay writes carefully about her own body, her privacy, and the cost of telling the truth in public. What did it feel like to be trusted with that, and did it change how you think about what you share?
By the time you closed the book, had your sense of what it means to hold a belief imperfectly shifted? Say it as a feeling rather than a verdict if that is easier.