The Secret Lives of Murderers' Wives
A quietly unsettling story about the women who live alongside monstrous men and the ordinary domestic lives they build in the shadows. It asks what you would notice, forgive, or refuse to see in someone you love.
Come sit in the warm lamplight while we talk about the women in Elizabeth Arnott's The Secret Lives of Murderers' Wives. Bring your slippers, bring your opinions, bring an appetite. No homework, no hot takes required.
Best for: A club that likes a dark story told in a warm room, with more feelings than footnotes
Discussion
Warm-up
- 1.Where did you do most of your reading of this one, and did you need the lights on? Tell us your reading setup for a book like this.
- 2.What was the first small domestic detail (a kitchen, a routine, a tidy house) that gave you a chill rather than comfort?
Digging in
- 1.The book lives in ordinary rooms. Which scene of plain daily life stayed with you longest, and what did it make you feel about your own routines?
- 2.When you read about these women being judged by neighbours and strangers, what came up in you: protectiveness, frustration, recognition, something else?
- 3.The title promises secrets. What is a kind of secret you think a person can keep out of love rather than out of guilt, and did the book make you more or less generous about that?
- 4.Was there a moment where you felt genuine tenderness toward one of these wives? What did it feel like to be moved by someone the world has already decided about?
Going deep
- 1.By the time you closed the book, had your sense of how much a person can truly not know about someone they share a bed with shifted? Talk about where you landed, without giving anything away.
- 2.This story spends a lot of time on the cost of staying. Without spoiling how things go, what did the book leave you believing about whether these women get to have a life after, and did that feel merciful or bleak to you?
On the table & to sip
To eat
To sip
Run of show
Host tips
- Say the spoiler rule once at the start and again before the deep questions, so late finishers can stay in the room.
- If the conversation turns genuinely heavy (this book invites it), pivot to a food question or a trivia card for a minute, then come back. Cozy means nobody has to perform being fine.
- Keep the kettle on and let people answer with 'I don't know, it just got to me.' Feelings count as full answers tonight.
Playlist
Hushed, low-lit, mostly voice and piano, warm on the surface with something uneasy underneath.
- 01 The Night We Met - Lord Huron
- 02 Lay Down Your Weary Tune - Nick Drake
- 03 My Love Mine All Mine - Mitski
- 04 Pink Rabbits - The National
- 05 Hushabye Mountain - Beth Orton
- 06 Oh My Darling (Don't Cry) - Run River North
- 07 Promises - Laura Marling
- 08 Home - Brandi Carlile
Trivia
- 1.What genre shelf does a title like this sit on: cozy mystery, domestic suspense, or hard-boiled noir? (Domestic suspense, the subgenre built on threat inside the home and the marriage.)
- 2.The phrase 'domestic noir' was coined in the 2010s by which British crime novelist? (Julia Crouch.)
- 3.Domestic suspense as a modern commercial wave is usually traced to a 2012 bestseller about a vanished wife. Name it. (Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn.)
- 4.What is the term for a person who knowingly helps conceal a crime after it has been committed? (An accessory after the fact.)
- 5.Mid-century American writers like Margaret Millar and Dorothy B. Hughes wrote early versions of this subgenre. What did critic Sarah Weinman call her anthology reviving them? (Women Crime Writers, and her later collection Troubled Daughters, Twisted Wives.)
- 6.In UK law, what is the name of the legal privilege that historically limited compelling a spouse to testify? (Spousal or marital privilege (the competence and compellability of spouses).)
- 7.True or false: 'murderabilia' is a real collector's term in true-crime culture. (True. It refers to objects associated with notorious criminals.)
- 8.What narrative device do novels about multiple linked women most often use to braid their stories together? (Multiple or alternating points of view, often across different timelines.)
Bookmarks
Print, cut, and tuck one at every seat, a small keepsake from the night.
“She kept the house spotless. She kept everything else too.”
“Put the kettle on. Nobody is leaving this kitchen yet.”
“Love is mostly deciding what not to ask.”
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We hope the company was good and the conversation even better. Until the next chapter.