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Book Club Night Kit
Thinking, fast and slow

Thinking, fast and slow

Daniel Kahneman
Cozy night

A Nobel-winning psychologist explains the two ways our minds work, a quick intuitive one and a slow careful one. Over tea it turns into a warm, funny, sometimes humbling conversation about why we do what we do.

Come Think Slow With Us

Join us for soup, spiced cider, and gentle talk about Thinking, Fast and Slow. Come as you are, finished or not, and bring your favorite mug.

Reading level: Challenging

Best for: Curious, chatty friends who like swapping personal stories more than debating footnotes

Discussion

Warm-up

  1. 1.Did any of the little brain teasers catch you out? Tell us the one that made you laugh at yourself, and whether you tried it on anyone at home.
  2. 2.Where and how did you read this one? Did it suit a slow cozy chair and a cup of tea, or did you read it in small bites?

Digging in

  1. 1.The book says a lot of our judgments happen fast and without effort. Think of a snap impression you had of someone that turned out wrong. How did it feel when you found out?
  2. 2.When do you feel most at home in your slow, careful mind? Is there a ritual, a place, or a time of day that helps you think things through gently?
  3. 3.Kahneman writes about how much we hate losing compared with how much we enjoy gaining. Is there a cherished object or habit you've held on to longer than was sensible? What does it mean to you?
  4. 4.The book separates the self who lives through a moment from the self who remembers it later. Share a memory that got sweeter over time, or one that was nicer to live than it is to remember.

Going deep

  1. 1.Knowing how often our minds take shortcuts, did the book make you feel more forgiving of yourself and the people you love, or more wary? Did that feeling change as you kept reading?
  2. 2.The later chapters look at well-being and what makes a life feel good. After finishing, is there one small thing you'd like to change about how you spend or remember your days?

On the table & to sip

To eat

Slow-simmered tomato and white bean soup with crusty bread
A nod to the slow mind. Make it in the afternoon, let it simmer while you set up, and ladle it out warm when people arrive.
Fast snack board: cheese, grapes, spiced nuts, and honey
The quick, intuitive side of the menu. It's there for grazing, so nobody has to think about it.
Warm brown butter blondies served at the end of the night
A sweet play on the book's idea that endings shape how we remember an experience. Save the best bite for last so the evening is remembered fondly.

To sip

Slow-steeped chai with steamed milk (no alcohol)
Non-alcoholic and worth waiting for. Let the spices steep patiently, the way the slow mind works.
Hot mulled apple cider (no alcohol)
Its familiar, comforting smell does the first-impression work before anyone sits down. Make a big pot so guests can help themselves.
Honey-lemon hot toddy
A soothing nightcap for the deeper questions later in the evening. Keep pours small so everyone stays thoughtful.

Run of show

7:00
Arrivals and warm cups
Hand out mugs of cider or chai, point people to the snack board, and keep the playlist low.
7:20
Brain teaser icebreaker
Read one or two trivia questions out loud and have everyone blurt a gut answer first. Laugh together, no scores.
7:35
Soup and warm-up questions
Serve the soup and go through the warm-up questions while everyone settles in.
8:05
Theme conversation
Pass around the theme question cards. Let anyone skip, and let stories wander.
8:45
Blondies and deep questions
Bring out the warm dessert and a round of toddies, then settle into the two deeper questions.
9:20
Cozy scorecards and goodbyes
Fill in scorecards over the last sips, share one-word reactions, and send guests home with a bookmark.

Host tips

  • Tell people up front that it's fine to have read only part of the book. The chapters stand on their own, so everyone can join in.
  • Keep a dish of index cards on the table for anyone who'd rather write down a story or thought than say it aloud.
  • Make the soup ahead and keep it on low heat so you're sitting with everyone, not stuck in the kitchen.

Playlist

Soft acoustic folk and mellow soul, songs about slowing down and looking at things twice

  1. 01 The 59th Street Bridge Song (Feelin' Groovy) - Simon & Garfunkel
  2. 02 Both Sides Now - Joni Mitchell
  3. 03 Harvest Moon - Neil Young
  4. 04 Pink Moon - Nick Drake
  5. 05 Fast Car - Tracy Chapman
  6. 06 Slow Burn - Kacey Musgraves
  7. 07 Mind Games - John Lennon
  8. 08 Take It Easy - Eagles

Trivia

  1. 1.What prize did Daniel Kahneman win in 2002? (The Nobel Memorial Prize in Economic Sciences)
  2. 2.What names does the book give the fast, intuitive mind and the slow, effortful one? (System 1 and System 2)
  3. 3.Which longtime collaborator of Kahneman's comes up throughout the book? (Amos Tversky)
  4. 4.A bat and a ball cost $1.10 together, and the bat costs $1.00 more than the ball. How much is the ball? (5 cents (the gut says 10 cents))
  5. 5.What was Kahneman's academic field? (Psychology)
  6. 6.What is the name of the theory Kahneman and Tversky developed about how people make decisions involving risk? (Prospect theory)
  7. 7.In what year was Thinking, Fast and Slow published? (2011)
  8. 8.What are the two selves the book contrasts when it discusses happiness? (The experiencing self and the remembering self)

Bookmarks

Print, cut, and tuck one at every seat, a small keepsake from the night.

Thinking, fast and slow

“Pour the tea, then let the thought steep.”

Thinking, fast and slow
Daniel Kahneman
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Thinking, fast and slow

“First instincts are welcome here. Second thoughts too.”

Thinking, fast and slow
Daniel Kahneman
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Thinking, fast and slow

“Save the sweetest moment for the end.”

Thinking, fast and slow
Daniel Kahneman
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Rate the book

Aha moments☆☆☆☆☆
Made me laugh at myself☆☆☆☆☆
Easy to read with tea☆☆☆☆☆
Stories it sparked☆☆☆☆☆
Would recommend to a friend☆☆☆☆☆
One word for how this book made me feel: ______________________
A gut reaction I'm rethinking: ______________________
The idea I'll carry home with me: ______________________
That's a wrap
Thank you for coming

We hope the company was good and the conversation even better. Until the next chapter.